the bravest most beautiful affair …

when i first read this on on my style/make up/ lifestyle guru steph’s blog I got chills, the head to toe variety.  I searched out to see if it was in a book… i found the full text on a blog.  it is Ann Voskamp’s beautiful words.

In his sleep, he finds my hand.
It’s the only one I’ve ever known.
Hand in mine, that wraps around a waist, draws in close, slumbering strength always holding on.
I don’t know how another man’s skin feels.
My grandmother lived that kind of courage. The kind that made a vow and had the bravery to let it age.
The wrinkled faithfulness of monogamy, it can look pedestrian, the kind that finishes well, parades up through the Arc de Triomphe, battle scarred, and the tourists just blithely shuffle by, pigeons taking to oblivious wing. She told me about this.
I remember it, nights like these.
How she said that the bravest love is wildly faithful and it falls hard again every morning. How it puts the toilet seat down and the cap on the toothpaste and winks for those already-won eyes. It knows what we seek may be found in what we already have.And there can always be this — the allure of the vows.
I feel his skin, his hand around me in sleep. We sleep like this this night after years of nights, light of the moon stretching long across our room, the pillows, us growing old in this romanced ordinary. It’s grace and fresh gratitude that can make us strong enough to marvel in the seeming monotony of anythingAnd the happily married have eyes that look long enough to make the familiar new. When he comes up behind me and hugs me at the stove, I still whisper it to him: “I still can’t really believe I get to be married to you.” Grandma washed Grandpa’s underwear for fifty six years, and she said it was always so good.
Warm it falls on the nape of my neck, his sleep breath, close. I press closer. There’s this beautiful drama’s in a long faithfulness and aged love might be heroic. God knows the passion of a covenant.
His stubble rubs my shoulder.
He makes me, shape and rib, and my head’s full of how we’ve known each other and how he still is mystery and how the want is still all his. We sleep in matrimony and it is holy.
… ann voskamp

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  • Reply Nicole Marie

    i want a love like that

    January 24, 2012 at 3:09 pm
  • Reply Michelle (michabella)

    Love Ann Voskamp <3

    January 24, 2012 at 3:17 pm
  • Reply Laura J

    There are some things so beautiful it almost hurts. This is one of them. Thanks for sharing! xo

    January 24, 2012 at 3:29 pm
  • Reply Lyndsay

    That is so beautiful.

    January 24, 2012 at 3:38 pm
  • Reply Faith

    it is nice to have a love like this 🙂

    so beautiful!

    January 24, 2012 at 3:42 pm
  • Reply Jenni@Story of My Life

    I am bawling.

    January 24, 2012 at 3:46 pm
  • Reply christin

    glasses are foggy over here.

    January 24, 2012 at 3:48 pm
  • Reply brittany

    oh that's beautiful.

    January 24, 2012 at 4:01 pm
  • Reply Julia - the Urban Slant

    Chills. beautiful.

    January 24, 2012 at 4:14 pm
  • Reply Petchie

    So beautiful!


    January 24, 2012 at 4:17 pm
  • Reply Catherine Robinson

    Beautiful beyond words…thank you for sharing.

    January 24, 2012 at 4:23 pm
  • Reply wildchild

    Holy cow

    January 24, 2012 at 4:35 pm
  • Reply Lauren

    Beautiful. Thank you so much for sharing.

    January 24, 2012 at 4:49 pm
  • Reply Jessica

    this are truly beautiful words. I know everyone often tailors words, quotes and stories to mold their life to give it extra meaning, but this feels so personal to me. this is exactly how i feel about my husband & exactly how i felt while he was away. i have told my husband almost everyday since we got married that i can't believe how lucky I am to be his wife. & i constantly repeat "i love my husband so much" in my head, not to remind myself but because it amazes me how much i love him. thank you for sharing this sarah!!

    January 24, 2012 at 4:57 pm
  • Reply So Truly Lovely

    Thank you for sharing this 🙂 I pray all ladies strive to wait for this sort of love and this sort of commitment. It truly rocks my world how gracious God has been to me with the one I get to spend my life with.

    Glad you see all the beauty in this 🙂 It is truly captivating (she is a ridiculous writer, too).

    xoxo, Anna N

    January 24, 2012 at 5:14 pm
  • Reply Megan

    oh be still my heart. i love this so much.

    January 24, 2012 at 5:16 pm
  • Reply Kelly | Eat Yourself Skinny

    Oh I love this, so beautiful 🙂

    January 24, 2012 at 5:18 pm
  • Reply Amanda

    Amazing! This makes me feel so blessed and happy. Thanks for sharing!

    January 24, 2012 at 5:35 pm
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    January 24, 2012 at 5:59 pm
  • Reply Corey @ Learning Patience

    wow…thanks for that Sarah…that just made my morning.
    xoxo from Calgary

    January 24, 2012 at 6:02 pm
  • Reply 17 Perth

    Wow–I am blown away–this is beautiful. Beautifully written and so so true.

    January 24, 2012 at 6:18 pm
  • Reply Natalie

    this is amazing. i hope and pray that after 50 years this is my marriage still.

    January 24, 2012 at 6:22 pm
  • Reply Dancing Branflake

    Ann Voskamp is my hero. What a beautiful prose. So glad I get to see my hubby tonight.

    January 24, 2012 at 6:58 pm
  • Reply ♥ CheChe

    I am in love with this love that is being written about. I believe it Lord, oh how i believe it. thanks girl. Your such a joyful blogger! 🙂


    oh, btw, i cried… yeah. just had to share.

    January 24, 2012 at 7:54 pm
  • Reply Elle Croft

    Oh wow, this is just SO beautiful! Thank you for sharing these goosebump-raising words!

    January 24, 2012 at 8:38 pm
  • Reply Sophie

    after reading this, i looked at george while he was just working away and smiled 🙂

    i love this so much sarah! thank you for sharing! x

    January 24, 2012 at 8:49 pm
  • Reply Sophie

    after reading this, i looked at george while he was just working away and smiled 🙂

    i love this so much sarah! thank you for sharing! x

    January 24, 2012 at 8:49 pm
  • Reply taylor

    i'm in love with this post. so happy you shared it with us!

    January 24, 2012 at 8:55 pm
  • Reply Gaby

    so beautiful, can't believe i've never read this before!

    January 24, 2012 at 9:36 pm
  • Reply Ashley {styleash}

    This is beautiful. And while I'm not married yet- I've been with the same guy for 8 years and this is simply perfect.

    Thanks for sharing!

    January 24, 2012 at 9:58 pm
  • Reply M.


    January 24, 2012 at 10:03 pm
  • Reply jillian nicole

    So tender and touching. I'm thankful everyday that I'm the one who gets to wash Husband's underwear, and I pray that in fifty-six years nothing will have changed!:) Thanks so much for sharing, Sarah!

    January 24, 2012 at 10:45 pm
  • Reply Barbara

    Wow. I only hope, one day, I find someone who will make me feel this way

    January 24, 2012 at 11:07 pm
  • Reply Erin

    What a beautiful description of love. 🙂 love your heart.

    January 24, 2012 at 11:14 pm
  • Reply nancy

    goosebumps. and tears in my eyes. I love falling asleep in those arms; his stubble on my shoulder and warm breath on the nape of my neck. 🙂

    January 24, 2012 at 11:27 pm
  • Reply Candace

    I want a love like that!

    January 25, 2012 at 12:46 am
  • Reply Sheila @ The FailteHouse

    This is soo so beautiful! Thanks for sharing! If you don't mind, I am going to re-post this to share with my family and friends and link it to you!

    January 25, 2012 at 1:01 am
  • Reply Mariel Torres

    Oh wow, I seriously got chills reading this… so beautifully written!

    January 25, 2012 at 1:51 am
  • Reply Glocal Girl

    My heart skipped a beat when I read this. Beautiful, beautiful, beautiful. And inspiring. Thank you for sharing.

    January 25, 2012 at 7:45 am
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    I just found your blog and this is a perfect first post to stumble on! I love it… so beautiful and inspiring 🙂

    January 25, 2012 at 11:50 am
  • Reply Lisa

    Oh, this is absolutely breathtaking. Thank you so much for sharing!

    January 25, 2012 at 3:02 pm
  • Reply Celeste

    I love Voskamp – she has an amazing writing style.

    January 25, 2012 at 4:16 pm
  • Reply Alex

    Chills indeed. Beautiful!

    January 25, 2012 at 7:05 pm
  • Reply Renee

    I wish more people let it age. I love this. Thanks for sharing!!

    January 26, 2012 at 12:15 am
  • Reply Michaela

    Isn't Ann Voskamp amazing?! I'm on round three of reading her book 1000 gifts. She has this way of writing and inspiring people that I haven't come across before. Thanks for sharing 🙂

    January 26, 2012 at 2:35 am
  • Reply Something Old, Something New

    I just love this – absolutely beautiful.

    January 26, 2012 at 8:18 pm
  • Reply littlemiss

    I love this! I believe in matrimony and think this is the most beautiful way to celebrate that.

    xo. Little Miss

    January 27, 2012 at 4:47 pm
  • Reply Shalyn

    Beautiful. Brought tears to my eyes. <3 I love this so much…

    January 31, 2012 at 12:59 am
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    Just catching up on my blogs now… I love this! It made me cry, and this post was from my anniversary. Double cry. 🙂

    February 8, 2012 at 11:13 pm
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