5 tips on fostering sweet sibling relationships

Most surprising to me is how close my kids are.  They get along and play non stop most of the time.  I know that won’t always be the case, and likely as soon as I hit publish the tides will turn on me!  And now, I only have two and a half years under my belt in this sibling thing, so really what do I know?  A lot of this is plain luck.  But a couple people have asked how they get along so well?  what did you do?  So here’s a post on what helped us in those newborn days…

    1.  When I was pregnant I read a ton of books and we watched Daniel tiger’s “new baby” episode a few times. I prepared him as much as possible for what to expect.  Here’s a few of our favorites during that time:

  1. When Wes arrived I tried to include him in everything.  When wes was a crying newborn, I’d ask Tuck what he thought was wrong.  Having help him diagnose the problem was pretty cute but also made him feel involved.  I also had him fetch diapers, clothes, etc.  
  2. We napped for so long together in those early months.  It was mostly out of survival, but also because I thought there’s something sweet that’s fostered between them in that.  Being close to his baby was his favorite.  
  3. Whenever Tuck had been somewhere I always made sure to have a little something for him from Wesley.  Not big things but a hot wheel or a couple stickers.  We’d pick him up from school, and I’d have something in his carseat and tell him it was from his brother.  He loved that!  As a two year old, he totally believed that this little two week old picked him out something (:  I hoped it made him think he was always being thought of by his brother!  
  4. With my first son I stayed in a lot, but with a toddler that’s hard to do.  We went so many places as a family, and just the three of us too.  I took Wes places I would have not taken Tuck before six months.  I think having wesley usually along for the ride helped tuck be very aware of him.  There were certain limitations, and I just think that helped him think more of Wes, and his needs as a baby.  I’m not sure if that makes sense!
  5. I had Tuck at home until a little after Wesley was born.  I think having his own thing really helped him with his sense of self, and to have his own thing going on.
    {boys are in adorable seersucker by Nantucket Kids c/o// T-Shirt is Honey Bee Tees}

I’d love to hear ideas on how you help foster sibling love?  I’ll need help as they get older!!

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  • Reply brittany

    oh gosh, i just love their precious relationship!!! you are the best mama. and i love all these suggestions so much!!! we did a lot of daniel tiger’s new baby episodes, as well!! and the sweetness of them with “their” baby afterward. gosh, that’s just the best!

    August 29, 2017 at 11:13 pm
  • Reply Brittany Lewis

    These are such sweet ideas. My boys are 26 months apart (1 and 3 now) and they are super close. It’s hard to prepare a 2 year old for a new baby but it was instant love when he met his baby brother. They’are inseparable. If the 3 year old is in time out, the little one is right next to him. If the 1 year old is playing alone, he’ll toddle around until he finds his brother to play. We’ve talked about putting the older one in pre-school and all he’s concerned about is being away from his brother. We’re very lucky that their sweet relationship came very natural and pray they always love and care for each other the way they have since Day 1.

    August 30, 2017 at 8:31 am
  • Reply Caley

    The bond between same sex siblings is out of this world!!! I envy my girls for being so close, it is truly magical x

    September 6, 2017 at 10:28 am
  • Reply Denise

    Goodness your boys are precious and I love seeing their sweet relationship 💙 I respect you so much as mama sweet sarah! We did a lot of prep too and I totally used your dollar store idea so that Georgia had little treats from Matthew all the time. Now I just try to leave them be as much as possible and work it out. Usually they do! And we are constantly singing Daniel tiger’s “find a way to play together” song 😂😂

    September 7, 2017 at 9:12 pm
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