Monday, April 30, 2012

What my Twenties are teaching me: Bridget

Next up is lovely bridget!  and we even get to see a bridget kiddo pick.  we're lucky.  enjoy!
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(Here's sweet, little, innocent Bridget playing golf in Sea Isle, NJ.
Oh, how ignorant she was!)

I began my 20's as a single college girl, footloose and fancy free.  I'm nearing the end of this decade with five kids plus a dog, a husband, and a house.

You can imagine my twenties have taught me a lot.

I don't think I could come up with the single most important lesson.  The pinnacle of lessons.  There have been so many and they have all served their purpose.  Some have been more painful than others.  While some, I've hardly known I was "in" until I was "out."  You know what I'm saying?  

But, I'll try to sum a few up.  Here goes nothing.

I've learned to give up control. 
This is a hard one for me.  I never knew I had control issues until I had control issues and was in the thick of it.  I think chaos breeds a need to control and for me, marrying a guy and becoming instamom, was chaos.  Thus, I became controlling.  A clean kitchen, the right food in the pantry, shoes off in the house.  I needed these things done to give me a sense of peace.  While I still really prefer shoes off in the house, I'm able to shrug off most of the others (most of the time!).  Let me tell you, being able to give up that control is freeing.  

I've learned fighting is good.
I was scared to fight with my husband.  I thought fighting meant we were doomed as a couple (I wrote about it here!).  I thought our fights were monumental, the biggest fights in the history of all the fights!!   Not true.  Fighting is natural, okay, and good.  And, almost six years in, I daresay we're better for them?

I've learned to be grateful.
I don't know when or how this one happened, but I spent much of my childhood comparing my clothes with the clothes of my classmates.  Our cars with their cars.  My looks with their looks.  I almost always came up short in these comparisons.  Not having the best of everything builds character.  I'm sure of it.  Add to that, I've learned somewhere along the way, to be grateful.  That life is a gift, we only have this one, and that being grateful breeds contentment.  And contentment is maybe the best thing ever.  I'd even say it trumps happiness.

I've learned that travel is where it's at.
Taking trips, going on vacations, traveling.  The best memories have been spent traveling.  Going places.  Seeing things.  Whether it's near or far, I can't think of a better memory-making thing to do.  I hope I pass this love onto my kids.  I hope that they don't invest in a big home but in traveling instead.  Sarah and JB started life off right--traveling!  

So, there are just a few things I've learned in my twenties.  I'm sure there are a few more lessons still to come.
Thanks for having me, Sarah!

Thursday, April 26, 2012

What my 20's are teaching me: Anna from IHOD




Next we have the stunning Anna from In Honor of Design!  Enjoy!!  
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Sarah, thank you for making this such a fun topic. It made me stop and reflect about that past few years.
I am heading towards the end of my twenties, and I can tell you it has been quite an adventure. Never expected to hit so many major milestones! I would be lying if I said I have been the same person throughout my twenties. Luckily, life events can change you, and hopefully its for the better. I am thankful for both the highs and the lows.
I fell in love for the first time.
Transferred colleges.
Experienced Heartbreak.
Earned an art studio degree.
Married my first love (whom I fall for every day).

Found our first home.
Had a baby boy (Gabriel Joseph) and experienced love at first sight.
Moved across the country.
Started my own business.
Experienced natural birth, and had a baby girl (Veronica Rose).

Moved back across the country.
Lost loved ones.
Learning and still learning how to be a mother.


These were the major ones. Hundreds of little ones fall in between. I got to experience all of this with my husband, Gabe, and each experience has taught us something new, but mainly, we don't have control over our lives. Ultimately, I learned that I have the will to make the most of what is given to me, to be grateful for my blessings, and to keep my head high. When you look up, you won't miss the beauty that is passing you by:) I admit, I don't want them to end. I decided at my 25th birthday I would stay 25 forever. 
I would love to know, what did you learn (or are you learning) in your twenties??

Wednesday, April 25, 2012

What my 20's are teaching me: Liz from Explore.Dream.Discover.

Today you have Liz from Explore.Dream.Discover!
You know the girl I met up with sight unseen in Paris last year.
annnnd... it was amazing!
She's here sharing her wisdom on what she's learned so far in her twenties...
wise, sweet, beautiful girl. that Liz. 
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Sure I’m only 25 (turning 26 this week!), but when Sarah asked me to share my thoughts on what I’ve learned in my twenties, I quickly thought back to when I was I was a 20-year-old sophomore in college, and how much I’ve changed since then. I actually feel like I’m a completely different person just 6 years later. Here are a few of my most valuable lessons learned:

+you will find someone who loves you with everything he has, treats you right and wants to spend the rest of his life with you. Don’t settle for anything less than that.

+traveling is the best investment you can make. Sure, you’re young and you’re not making much money, but the value you gain from the experience of exploring new places is worth pinching pennies on other things.
+friends come and go – your family is forever. treat them accordingly.
+today is our only guarantee. just because you’re young doesn’t mean you’ve got time to waste on people who don’t appreciate you and jobs you hate. live each day like it’s your last.
+be thankful. Grateful people are happier. It’s easy to focus on the crappy stuff sometimes, but try to remember how blessed you are.
+“Comparison is the thief of joy” – Theodore Roosevelt. In the age of Twitter, Instagram, Facebook and blogs where we all put our best face forward and rarely brag about the fight we had with our husband or our bad hair day, it’s important to stay focused on your life and stop comparing yourself to others – it’s detrimental to your life and happiness!
+don't worry about the number of friends you have - quality over quantity.
+do what makes you happy – even if that’s not the “cool” thing to do. take pride in knowing what you like and what brings you joy. the people who matter will accept you for who you are and won’t try to change you.
Wedding photos by Jill Thomas

Tuesday, April 24, 2012

What my 20's are teaching me: Megan from Across the Pond


This is me, contemplating my twenties..

 Hi Followers of Fairy Tales are True!
I am Megan, the blogger behind Across The Pond
I love being over here..LOVE Sarah..and love this series she is doing..

I am 26..so haven't yet crossed the threshold out of the twenties..
BUT
I am a little over halfway through them (the twenties that is) and already I could write a novel on this chapter...But instead, here are 20 lessons my twenties have taught me..thus far.


1. Good food is best consumed along side a nice glass of wine or a good cocktail

2. Seasonal Affect disorder is real after 7 months of winter in Scotland

3. Friendships that withstand distance are friendships worth keeping

4. Spring's first bloom can mean a new start if you want it to

5. Second chances do exist, and should be taken both humbly and without hesitation

6. Going against social norms is not always a negative thing

7. Divorce doesn't mean death, but it is entirely human to mourn for both.

8. Relationships cannot, and should not, be generalized.

9. Forgiveness is giving up the hope that the past could of been any different

10. Maintain integrity and you will receive respect

11. Your status of being present with another person is more important than updating your status online in that given moment.

12. We are given one life..just one..to understand that fully means to live it without delay and to disregard the nay-sayers.

13. Sometimes a problem can be fixed with a bar of chocolate and a new item of clothing

14. Nap time is necessary for adults too

15. Sun is natures anti depressant

16. What you turn your nose up at will inevitably be something you must personally face.

17. Jesus rode in on a Donkey, so its probably a good idea to get off your high horse.

18. New haircut=new day

19.  You should probably floss your teeth more than once a year.

20. Lastly, a lesson from John Steinbeck:

photo taken by me

Monday, April 23, 2012

What my Twenties Taught me: Raven

I read Julianna Morlett's "What No one ever told me about my Twenties" series with bated breath, I couldn't wait for the next one to be posted.  I thought I'd like to do something similar...  I asked a few of my favorite girls to give us insight on what they've learned in their twenties // or rather, what they are learning.  
I turn 29 this year in December and Julianna's series got me thinking.  
I have changed so much since 20.
There are a lot of things I wish someone had told me... you know, so I wouldn't have learned a few things the hard way. 
but then, I wouldn't be me without those lessons... catch 22.
I hope you all enjoy this week of incredible reads!
starting with the hottest mama, and wise too - Raven. 

Hey Fairytales Are True readers! I'm Raven and I blog about my sometimes crazy life over at A Momma's Desires and Pacifiers

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When Sarah first asked me to write a post about how I have changed from my early twenties until now, my initial first thought was, "changed? I haven't changed. I'm still just as wild, crazy and fun as I was ten years ago." I mean, my goal is to live as if I'm perpetually 23 for the rest of my life. But the more I thought about it, the more I started to realize that I have changed. In a big way. And definitely, for the better.



I met my husband when I was 21. He was 15 1/2 years older than me. (When you are dealing with a big age difference, every "1/2" matters, trust me.) We got married when I was 23.



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(please excuse the quality of this photo. We got married in the stone age and I had to use the scanner)



One thing I would change about my wedding day (which was almost 8 years ago)? I wouldn't have drank so much at the reception. Nothing worse than a boozy bride, right? But I guess that's what a little growing up will teach you.



As for year one of marriage compared to year almost-eight? A few things have changed...



- I'm not so insanely jealous. So what if he ran into an ex? I have him now.

 - I am not, in fact, the center of the Universe. In order for me to be treated like a queen, I need to treat him like a king. (This one took a while for me to learn)

- Even if I don't feel like doing something, sometimes I just gotta. For the greater good of the marriage.

- I watch my words more closely. You can be so mad sometimes that you just want to spew every hateful thing you can at your spouse, but words hurt and they can take a long time to get over.



Something else that has changed (besides my constant hair changes and his...not so constant hair changes)?



We have become better looking in our old age.



At least in my never to be humble opinion.



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(us today)



And kids. Oh, the kids. If I had had my two boys when I was in my early twenties?



God help us all.



My goal was to be married at least two years before we had kids, and it turned out to be five. Which was a tremendous blessing in disguise. Because now? I'm able to be the kind of mom I've always wanted to be.



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(me with my two boys, Gunner, age 4 and Colt, age 2)



This past December I turned 31 (still trying to come to grips with that. I'm almost 40 for crying out loud!) and the hubs will be the big 4-7 this June. But even though I went from this...



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(crazy days on the boat with a crazy hot brazilian sprawled across my lap)



to this...



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(quiet evenings on the river with my 4-year old)



and this...



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(a baby in his lap...and not that crazy hot brazilian)



I wouldn't have it any other way.



I had fun in my twenties, but I was basically living for myself.



And now?



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Now I have a lot more to live for.




Thursday, April 19, 2012

I need your help: Lugano vs. Lake Como

My friend, The World's Best Photographer
 will be traveling throughout Italy and Switzerland, and posed the question:
Lugano or Lake Como?
Lugano was the first trip we took on Easter weekend in 2010.  
Lake Como was our last trip we took in 2011. 
Very different states of mind.  
When I was little we went to Lugano and ever since then I would say "lugano is my fave place"...
when I brought JB there I was a little nervous.  Would it be as beautiful as I remembered?
It was.

But then I saw Lake Como a year and some change later... was it awe-inspiring?  yep. 

So I fear I won't be of much help.



Soooo fellow travelers, dreamers, ex-pats, vagabonds, researchers...
Have you been to either?
thoughts?
places to stay?
where to eat?
Give me the details.
per favore.

Wednesday, April 18, 2012

Prague Videos

Just some videos that make me giggle from our trip to prague in 2010.   
A few make me well up with tears because I'm so utterly ridiculous. 
enjoy!  and try not to make fun of me too bad (:





My basel ID card. tragic.
JB being a nerd. 
Shoes.  omg. shoes. 
JB spots a gray hair.  and i don't like it.



















Tuesday, April 17, 2012

My weekend in Instagrams

last weekend we threw a shower.  and by we, i mean my MIL did all of the work.  
I just got to play with flowers.  which is quite possibly the best job ever.
read more about that here.  
you can read a bit more about that here.
I shoot film now.  thanks to JL.
find this beauty here
my nightly routine these days.
the weather has been so beautiful before sunset.  i like to dangle my feet off the dock.
Jessica Lorren & Lola.  <3
JB took us all on a sunset cruise Sunday night.  beautiful.
Diana Lupu is the definition of lamb.
and also the cutest 7 and a half month pregnant woman ever.  
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This past weekend was non-stop but so fun.
I love house guests.  especially when it's jess and diana.  
come back soooon.

Monday, April 16, 2012

Wishing you a Happy Monday!

Happy Monday!  Hope you all had a lovely weekend.

Love,
The Tuckers
2012

{you can buy here in black}
 xo xo 

Thursday, April 12, 2012

Begin Now

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i made a list soon after my surgery of all the things I wanted to do.
I read a quote inside a jamba juice {ha!} that said 
"Begin doing what you want to do now.
 We are not living in eternity. We have only this moment, sparkling like a star in our hand-and melting like a snowflake"

i can't believe how many i've crossed off of that list. 
sometimes it takes something big happening to put your life into perspective.
but don't wait for something big 
to realize how short life is.
how we should go after our dreams ...
it costs far too much to not.

xo xo 

Wednesday, April 11, 2012

An Evening Walk


these are scenes from an evening walk.
which looks exactly like my morning walk.
oh and if I don't walk.  heaven help me.
sometimes i think, i don't have time for a walk!
but i'm learning : i cannot afford not to take care of myself.
if you are healthy and happy - how much more will you offer your spouse, family, friends, clients?
it's a no brainer really.  
so go on walks, drink lots of water, and eat right. 
for everyone's sake! (:

ps:
take this quick poll, and let me know what you'd like to see more of around here.

Tuesday, April 10, 2012

Christmas on Easter!

For the last nine {!!!} years my BFF's from high school have had a Christmas exchange.  Due to Cami being in Sweden this year we pushed it to Christmas on Easter.  The year before, it was Christmas in January, since I was away in Panama.

Generally whenever anything is super cool in my home or on my bod, it was a gift from these gals.
they've got great taste.  but even better hearts.  how did I get so lucky?   I am blessed beyond words by their friendship.   I have had them by my side in every season of my life. how can I ever express how grateful i am for that?    I treasure their love, support, and patience with me more than I can express. 
 The older I get the more I realize how rare it is to have friendships like this.  
They are something to pray for, something to protect. 
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Found this inside of a book a few weeks ago.
so so grateful for you girls.  you keep my dreams alive.  

::: see pictures from the exchange here & here :::

Monday, April 9, 2012

1000 gifts


Just a little sneak at my Saturday night.
My father in law had tickets to go to the masters {!!!}, so we were happy to have my mother in law over for dinner.
JB pan fried and smoked mullet he caught off the dock the night before.  
It was such a beautiful night, a little windy, not too hot or cold.  
Can all meals be dined al fresco?  please.
trying to savor these breezy nights.

it is nights like those that make me so thankful.  for everything i have.
i look around and think - how can i ever complain?  about anything. ever.  
so sparked my 1000 gift post.  of course inspired by Ann Voskamp's book.
It has had a profound effect on me.  And I'd like to have a list of 1000 gifts by the end of the year.
i firmly believe gratitude is the key.  happy people are grateful.  grateful people are happy. 
so this post is going to grow.  
to have photos, words... i just want to get it all down.  to savor life.  
it's going to be the longest post ever.  
 i hope to make it to 1000 by New Years (:
And so i'd love to challenge you too, to make your list.  
Send me an email, and i'll compile a list of those who would like to take it on as well, and include a link to your post!  

so we begin.

#1.  Breezy nights on the dock
#2.  husband caught fish for dinner
#3.  the old church pew my neighbor gave me last night
#4. lola sleeping on my lap
#5. breakfast in bed
#6 lola's boyfriends next door.  and watching them play.  and kiss through the fence.  such unrequited love (:
#7. morning walks
#8. salt air
#9. a calm sea
#10.  manatee's swimming in our bayou
#11. a hot cup of coffee
#12. anticipation
#13. ducks swimming in my backyard
#14. hot coffee.
#15. the sound of the rain
#16.  humidity.  yes, i love you.
#17. fresh blooms
#18.  my new lavender plant
#19.  feeling a beautiful pregnant friends belly
#20.  time with girlfriends
#21.  morning hugs
#22. hanging with my mom
#33. snuggling up watching tv with jb
#34. jb coming all the way upstairs to kiss me every morning to say goodbye, when i'm still asleep (:
#35 fresh cut grass
#36. bacon. all that needs to be said.
#37. seeing my sweet dad last night
#38 walks with mom at desoto
#39.  magnolias blooming all down my street
#40.  the rain.
#41.  thunderstorms at night
#42. a husband that rigged up a tv riiiight next to the bed and watched bridesmaids with me when i was feeling ill.
#43.  anticipation
#44.  friends.  that enrich my life.
#45.  roma tomatoes
#46.   the last chill of the spring.
#47.  bright prints
#48.  a new paint job on our kitchen
#49. a weekend in miami with girlfriends
#50.  coming home after a weekend away
#51.  laughing uncontrollably
#52.  heather's late night jig.
#53.  Help me, i need a hamburger.
#54.  the color turquoise
#55.  big surprises.
#56. being featured on the everygirl again!
#57. a cool glass of water
#58.  long sunday drives along our beautiful coastline
#59.  brunch along the seaside
#60.  my sister graduating college!
#61.  picking out the perfect present for her.
#62. fresh oranges
#63. anthropologie.
#64.  the fact that my husband doesn't leave until he kisses me
#65. coffee cups from all over the world reminding us of travels
#66.  perrier.
#67.  Watching my in-law's dance
#68.  cornbread
#69.  flowers from JB
#70. fresh crab meat!
#71.  trip to annapolis
#72.  when the plane trips are surprisingly good.
#73.  snuggling with my college best
#74.  celebrating other college best's impending nuptials!
#75.  yummy seafood all weekend long
#76.  a bright yellow shirt
#77. date nights with jb
#78. popsicles in the summer
#79.  florida rainstorms - a full week of them!
#80. a clean house
#81.  getting into bed to clean sheets
#82.  hugs from friends you haven't seen in too long
#83.  thoughtfulness
#84.  fresh snapper
#85.  mom's chicken noodle soup
#86.  telling people i'm pregnant.  lots of fun (:
#87.  a full heart
#88.  celery.  i'm obsessed with it lately.
#89.  the blue ride mountains.
#90.  lunch at the dillard house
#91.  adorable bed and breakfasts
#92. opportunities
#93.  a new crib for our babe
#94.  a brand new day filled with possibilities
#95.  that my husband never leaves without a kiss
#96.  that my husband always greets me with a kiss
#97. cookbooks.  family ones are the best
#98.  a healthy baby boy
#99.  rent the runway.
#100.  shrimp!  gulf coast to be exact.
#101.  a clean office
#102.  a new dining room set
#103.  light pouring in from the window
#104.  southern sayings.
#105. crumb cake
#106. fall cleaning
#107.


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