Tuesday, October 30, 2012

for the broken hearted


Yesterday in the waiting room at my cardiologist appointment there was a teenage girl crying with her mom.  I thought at first that maybe it was about some bad news from the cardiologist.  But after eavesdropping a bit I realized it was indeed about the heart, just not the physical one she was headed to see the doctor about.  my heart sank for her.

 When I hear someone has gone through a heart break all I want to do is hug them just a minute too long, hear their story, shed a tear, and send them on with some reading material.
  Being sensitive is good for something ...
I know I write a lot about my husband over here.  About how shiny and kind and handsome he is.
When people ask about him to me, I literally light up.  he is my favorite.  
But sometimes I think about people checking this page who have just gone through a break up.
or just plain feel hopeless when it comes to love.

i guess what i want to say to them is, 
i've been there.
and like all good fairy tales, I think you've got to cross some hurdles to get to the honey pot. 
i had them.
I remember what it feels like to have your heart somewhere between your throat and the floor for what seemed like forever. 
I've written about this a time or two here,
how I am so glad I'm not the one in charge of planning my life.  
oh sure, I like to think I am.

 but seriously, i'm not nearly as creative as God.  
CS Lewis wrote "we're far too easily pleased".  and how true.  
I think about some of the prayers I've prayed, particularly after my broken heart ... 
... and looking back it was a lot like God listening, comforting, patting my back and saying
just you wait and see what i have in store for you.  
trust me.  this isn't it.  it's a whole lot better what I have in store. 

I don't want to bash every boyfriend I had here.
but when I think about who is perfect for me, it is my husband.  hands down.
i am so glad I married him.

So if you've had someone rip your heart out recently, I just want to say
I'm sorry, I love you, I'd hug you if you were next to me and
i can't wait to see what kind of fairytale is ahead for you.
mine's been pretty sweet so far.

48 comments:

  1. this is the sweetest!! you are the sweetest! your love for others radiates all the time, especially in todays post:) xo

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  2. sarah you are so sweet...there's nothing quite like the ache of a broken heart, but i for one think it has to break before you really know how to love. just one of life's mysteries.

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  3. Sarah, this is a very special post. Your heart is so big and so warm and full of love. Thank you.

    I agree with this post too - in life we all endure broken hearts and then a fairy tale ending. This is God's plan for us and we don't know it until the end...
    x

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  4. awww, you're the best Sarah and very right!

    Time will heal heartbreak. Been there as well and it's not pleasant but part of life so we can appreciate the good ;)

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  5. Beautifully written. You have a big heart and so glad you aren't afraid to share it:)

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  6. I think I'll bookmark this post and read it once a week. Lovely.

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  7. Sarah - this was beautiful! I love how your kindness jumps through your writing - your post was a dose of inspiration and medicine for my soul :)xo

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  8. I agree that God is much more creative than us. I never really had a boyfriend throughout high school, just boys that I thought I was madly in love with that didn't love me back. When I got my heart broken JUST before I left for a missions trip with my church, I was devastated and didn't want to go on the trip at all! It just so happens that God had a better plan. He made that boy break my heart so that I could be ready to meet the love of my life on that mission trip. We have been together 8.5 years, married 6 months, and I couldn't have asked for a better love story.

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  9. You have the sweetest soul. Having gone through this recently, it touched my heart extra specially :) I'd never been so heart broken in my life, but also never knew how entirely faithful God would be to me in that time. He picked me up, reconciles my pain and meet me right where I'm hurting every single time I let my heart go back to that day. So thankful for His plans and that they are, like you said, so much more creative than mine. I love that attribute of God :)

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  10. This made my morning, thank you for doing this Sarah. Your blog is truly amazing and inspiring. XOXO :)

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  11. I love this post. It's rare for someone who is very happy with their shiny, handsome husband to acknowledge heartbreak. you're a sweet girl, sarah. :)

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  12. Oh Sarah always with the perfect words!xxo

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  13. Such a sweet post :)

    Thank God for unanswered prayers!

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  14. This was just what I needed today! Being stuck inside during the hurricane has given me too much time to think. Thanks for cheering me up!

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  15. Well my dear, this is just purely perfect and delightful. Thank you for stating this-I too am ecstatic that God said no to many of my "I know what is best for me" prayers :)

    Love, Anna (married to the best answered prayer, Matt)

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  16. Wow. It's like you wrote this directly to me. I hope you're right, I hope it will get better. Sometimes I think about heartbreak (which I am struggling with now) and I wonder how so many people are going on in the world seeming so happy while every minute of every day is a struggle for some. Onward and upward, I suppose.

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  17. I needed this today, more than you know. Thank you for the encouragement and the reminder that He's got everything under control.

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  18. God has such an amazing way of working. I needed to hear this today. Thank you!

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  19. You are so sweet, Sarah. I once dealt with the horrible pain of heartache & lost a lot of faith in love for a while. Now that I am with someone else (the RIGHT someone else) love is so much sweeter than I ever could've imagined.

    Whenever I see someone with a broken heart - I want to hug them & tell them that it will eventually get better. It's hard, but so worth it in the end when you find the right person!

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  20. Thanks, Chica. Just went through the worst break up ever and am still recovering. It's always nice to hear about how women are happy that they experienced heart break to get to something better.

    While a piece of me is still dying inside I hope to one day find someone who makes it all worth it.

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  21. this post is so raw and true. the downs always help you appreciate the ups, don't they?

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  22. I SO needed this today. Thank you :)

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  23. Amen & amen! What a truthful & encouraging post. I know we have ALL been there, but God's plan is so much more beautiful than anything we've ever dreamed of!
    xoxo

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  24. I love love LOVE this post. Thank you :)

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  25. Sarah, I love your words. You are so in line with everything I believe. I am one of those girls waiting to meet the future husband God has intended for me. Though I cannot wait to just "know," I also am taking this time to prepare my heart. Thank you for always having sweet, inspiring posts :)

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  26. SUCH an amazing post! love love love that bolded sentence!

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  27. You just made me cry. It's been 8 months - why can't the heartache be over?!? GRRRR!!!
    Thanks for the hug.

    Cheers,
    Messy

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  28. This is perfect, thank you so much for sharing Sarah. Personally I needed this and it made me tear up quite a bit, but in a good way :)

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  29. I don't know how you knew it, but this is exactly what I needed to hear today. Thank you for sharing this, I appreciate it from the bottom of my heart.

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  30. I love you and your husband.

    serious.

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  31. This is truly precious, Sadie. I wholeheartedly would chime in with every word!

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  32. sarah i love your heart. you are the sweetest... i agree with everything you said. god gives us some hurdles because sometimes that makes the fairytale even more sweet..

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  33. I needed to hear this and so i'm grateful that your made this your blog today :) So uplifting, and you know one day when all of the heartbroken girls are married to wonderful men they are going to be so grateful that it didn't work with anyone else ;)

    -Emily@stampinmypassport

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  34. i love this Sarah. so beautiful.

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  35. i teared up when i read this. it's so true. whenever i hear about people going through heartache i just want to hug them a lot

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  36. So true! It's the worst while it lasts, but once you get over it you are so much stronger... and ready for the real thing :)

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  37. Thank you for this. It came at a much needed time. Time to look forward :)

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  38. This is a wonderful post... It is so nice to hear your side of this and to see what happiness you have found!

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  39. I truly hope you are right. I'm not going through heart ache, BUT...
    I've had my heart broken so many times that I am so afraid to love again and get hurt. I know that it is a risk and you have to take that leap of faith... They say there is someone for everyone - the great saying: Every pot has it's lid.
    Sometimes I think God forgot to make my lid. I hope He didn't.
    xxxx

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  40. This is beautiful, God has blessed you, and by default everyone around you, with a huge heart for those who are hurting. Such a perfect reminder that what He has in store is better than whatever we could have planned for ourselves. That being said, I do think many of our wishes and desires are placed on our hearts for a reason and that part of that is definitely His vision for our life.

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  41. Maybe we could be friends? :) You're so sweet. A good reminder as I leave my current relationship and venture into the unknown, trusting God to provide a man who will love me and my two foster children that I'm on the verge of adopting. It will take a special man, but I trust He will provide.

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