Monday, February 20, 2012

love letter to my husband on his birthday


JB turns 30 today.
30 years of pure awesomeness.
i'm rather obnoxious with how much i love that fella.  but it's true.  i do.
man i am so glad that guy was born. and that we ended up together.  
JB has taught me so much about life.  still hoping his good traits are transferred to me by marriage osmosis.
JB is everyones friend.  I am not kidding.  He has more friends than hairs on his head, and he's got thick hair.  He loves to be around everyone.  He doesn't judge people harshly.  He is patient.  He is so clever, witty, funny.  He knows how to not take himself too seriously.  In fact, he rarely does.  He doesn't take things personally.  He forgives.  He is almost always in a fantastic mood (he isn't mr. rogers after all).  
He is giving of his time, his energy.  
Even though a circumstance in his past could have left him closed off, bitter, angry.
  I see none of that in him.  I see someone who loves freely.  with all he has.  
that pure, open heart.  it is such a beautiful thing.  it blesses me everyday.
to say i admire my husband, would be putting it mildly.  to say the very least of how i feel.  
he makes me proud every single day.
of course there are frustrations with each other, there are fights... but there's also what comes after a fight.  
inspired by holly, i started a 30 years of memories project.
i had family and friends send in memories of JB.
i presented him with 30 envelopes this morning, each with different memories. 
the stories flooded the mailbox, pictures, drawings even, and of course funny and touching stories.
don't want to call anyone out but here are a few excerpts.

"what can i say about that devilishly adorable kid who i high fived in the halls of the upper school"
"JB always had this incredible and sincere grin on his face that was there all of the time"
"I've never met such a cheerful and secure 14 year old guy" 
"JB convinced me that he was Jewish.  I had known him for almost 10 years at this point ..."
"when he was a toddler he would ask me to "sleep for a few whiles" at bedtime"
"he was the only child in his play group to catch a fish with his bare hands"

"what I remember most about JB was his absolute "joie de vivre" a completely honest love of life"
"JB has become part of my family"
"i always thought I would cry the day of JB's wedding.  But instead I felt an enormous sense of pride.  of the man he has become.  of the woman he chose to marry"
"you are always positive and getting the best out of everything"
"you were my friend when i did not speak a word of english"
"being in a speedo, or at each other's weddings OR better yet being in a speedo at the wedding"
"hearing you give your speech to the happy couple was the sweetest thing and showed so many things - the value you put on friendship, your delight in other peoples happiness, your fun spirit, your sincerity and your love for sarah"
"this was the moment JB taught me to be a man"
"at 5 years of age he had more patience than many adults"
"JB's eulogy at Alexi's funeral was incredible  That courage and strength he reflected, at 16"
"his first SEC at bat was a home run against Ohio State"
"Tuck said how cool it was to see this mexican guy get a baseball from one of the players... little did he know that the mexican guy was my father.  smooth move JB.
"JB would make fun of me if I sulked.  he is awesome"
"he rode his bike straight into a row of parked bikes, bowling the bikes and himself over"
"when i reflect on our childhood the term "entrepreneurial spirit" comes to mind.  once it was selling painted rocks, or the time we went door-to-door peddling our sweet dance moves"
"thanks for being the best catcher and teammate we've ever had"
"when we picked Lola"

... so many good memories.  
i cried, giggled, and was flat out touched by everyone who took some time to write their memory.

i wrote many memories down for him.  I couldn't help myself!
we've had so many together.

a couple i'll share...
i'll never forget the strength of character he showed when i was sick.
how he would hold my hand, his devotion, the way his heart broke for me. 
or his away message (aol, what's up) after our first kiss..."i kissed you" it said.
some people ask what set JB apart for me from other guys ... he was a man.
he took responsibility, he cherished me, and he always followed through.
and then there were those darn butterflies that took up residence in my stomach... ( ;

i know few things for sure.  
but i am certain,
i am The luckiest.

54 comments:

  1. I am literally crying! Love you guys!

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  2. this just made me tear up. so sweet. hope he has the most wonderful birthday. and i know he will because you are so wonderful!

    xx

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  3. This is the sweetest thing, Sarah.
    Happy Birthday, JB!

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  4. geeezzz, that was so sweet and beautiful! clearly, you guys are so blessed to have each other and such a wonderful marriage! happy birthday to your hubs! ;)

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  5. is it irrational that I am totally teary? I don't even know the man!!! What I do know is how great YOU are, and if you speak this highly of JB I can't even imagine how incredible he is. I'm so glad you guys found each other - you are both so deserving of one another. Have fun celebrating!

    And P.S this is such an amazing idea. I've been wracking my brain trying to figure out how I can get our family and friends included in Corey's 30th. Being this far from home on this big of a birthday I know will be tough on him, and I want to make it extra special. Thanks for the inspiration :)

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  6. i just died. stop it. i love it so much it hurts. and im 100% certain JB and i are going to get along really well after reading some of those hysterical memories.

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  7. This is one of the sweetest things ever :) Sounds like JB is surrounded with loving family and friends who are so proud of him and appreciative to have him in their life.

    You two are such a precious couple, here's to the next 30 years of adorable togetherness!

    xxx
    Jenna

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  8. I love the idea of collecting 30 years of memories, it's so sweet and touching. Your love for him; and others love for him is evident! Loved this post :)

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  9. This is so special! Happy Birthday JB!

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  10. so sweet, happy birthday jb:)

    glad the memory project went so well! mine will be up next month! secrets ;)

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  11. Aww this is the sweetest idea ever!! How sweet, you all have such a beautiful relationship :)

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  12. My cold, icy heart was just warmed! I so teared up. Is it awkward b/c I don't even know you two? I would say yes except that I'm going to say no. Not awkward that you and JB share something that makes other believe. It's kind of rad.

    SUCHHH a good idea.

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  13. The excerpts were all so sweet - thanks for sharing them! Happy Birthday JB!

    SHF
    thechroniclesofs.blogspot.com

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  14. obsessed. stealing this. happy birthday handsome JB!!! and now.... now i miss my stone.! wahhhh

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  15. This is such an amazing post! And some of those memories classic--the bike one, haven't we all been there?

    Happy birthday JB have a great day the pair of you!

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  16. What a beautiful birthday post. Happy Birthday JB.

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  17. I love gifts like this! I've written a short note in a mini pocket notebook to my boyfriend every day since the new year and plan on giving it to him on New Years Day 2013. Just little things like saying thank you for something he did that day or a memory I don't want to forget. I'll have to remember to do this for his 30th! xo

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  18. Loved this post and reading about the love you two share. So inspiring! Happy Birthday JB!

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  19. Absolutely beautiful!

    eachdayinthislife.blogspot.com

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  20. What a wonderful idea. I am taking notes for my loves big birthday. You really do have a talent for making an event special :)

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  21. Awww happy birthday to your hubs! i hope you spend a wonderful day together. You guys are so adorable!


    - Sarah
    http://agirlintransit.blogspot.com

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  22. This is so sweet--what an amazing love you guys share! Happy, happy birthday to your hubs!:)

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  23. This is so very sweet and kind of you. I think you deserve each other :) Have you thought about doing a series or weekly post on how to be a good partner in marriage? I think it would be well received!

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  24. This is the sweetest thing ever. Love the "30 years of memories" idea...how special he must have felt! Happy Birthday to your hubby!

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  25. this is so touching... happy birthday to your other half (:

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  26. "he was the only child in his play group to catch a fish with his bare hands"


    ^^ this is a preview of your future children, i hope you know. yay for baby JBs!

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  27. So sweet sarah. It's also telling of what an incredible woman you are...im sure jb would agree.

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  28. happy birthday jb!!!! and what a wonderful wifey you are. that is an incredible and loving project :)

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  29. Such a brillant and thoughtful idea! I am sure JB was touched by this gift so much! You are indeed a lucky lady to have found such a gem, and likewise JB! Enjoy today and every other day!

    Rachel

    www.revolvingmarket.blogspot.com

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  30. So lovely - Happy Birthday to JB and what a fantastic reminder to be more kinder, more patient and better humoured. Such amazing character traits - you BOTH lucked out! ;-) xx

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  31. Happy Birthday JB!! And this memory project is so sweet and wonderful, such a great idea Sarah!
    Hope you two had a wonderful day together and JB enjoyed his special day!! Welcome to the 30s!! :)

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  32. happy birthday to your man :).
    You've got a good one.
    I feel confident saying that and I think theres 30 memories to back it up.
    Blessings girl

    ♥CheChe

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  33. happy birthday jeebs!! love y'all and so happy you found each other!! and i'm def stealing this for john's 30th this year -- he would LOVE it!! so thank uuuu mam :) xoxoxo

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  34. can you do this for me when I turn 30? k, thanks.

    also.. happy bday JB!

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  35. what a sweet note! sounds like he is pretty lucky too :)

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  36. Ugh this is so precious. So beautiful!
    And what an absolutely brilliant idea!! Im stealing it too (:

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  37. You are the sweetest wife ever and y'alls relationship just makes me happy. Thank you for sharing it with the blog world!

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  38. this is SO sweet! so happy for you both! love your blog and your photos!!

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  39. So so sweet! Makes me happy to read this! Happy birthday to your honey!!

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  40. Such a sweet birthday note to your husband! I bet he feels pretty lucky to have you too! :)

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  41. This is the sweetest post, ever! I love the 30 years of memories project. my man turns 30 next year and i think i might do this!

    happy birthday, JB!

    xo
    Erica

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  42. I agree. you ARE the luckiest.

    But I also agree that HE is the luckiest.

    and your (future) kids? THEE luckiest of all :)

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  43. This is the sweetest ever...

    It's like meeting JB for the first time- and in a way meeting YOU for the first time!

    My fave: "when he was a toddler he would ask me to "sleep for a few whiles" at bedtime"

    Thank you for sharing your lives with us! And happy birthday JB! Keep taking care of Sarah!

    Blessings - Katie

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  44. Oh that's so beautiful Sarah!! It's so wonderful to see you two so in love!
    And, small side note, I didn't know you didn't speak english before? So great to hear about you guys knowing each other for SO LONG too.

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  45. That is such an amazing present! You guys are so lucky to have each other! Thank you for sharing!!

    Definitely a new follower!

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  46. The love the two of you have is so beautiful. I can feel it through those words and it makes me smile and hope that I one day get blessed with an amazing man like yours. I adore the both of you! Wish I would have known y'all at Flagler!

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  47. that last paragraph really left me on the verge of tears.... so sweet and special and gosh he loves you so much and you love him so much.... i want that!!
    and you're so right, i am so done wasting my time with boys, i want a man! where do i find me one?!

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  48. ah, this made me cry! you are so wondeful for doing that for him, and for all the words you wrote.. he's lucky to have you too!
    i'm so happy when I hear other happy love stories. :))

    and again, SO glad I found your blog! finally :)

    inwithdnew.blogspot.com

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